We have all experienced it: One minute we are excited, happy and positive and the next we are sad, filled with anger, anxious and scared. We feel helpless when we are overwhelmed by our feelings. We think that we can't control our emotions and thoughts, but we can turn it around by coming up with more reasonable and helpful thoughts to change your thinking process and gain positive perspectives and self-confidence.
In the book “Conquer negative thinking” we can find habits that stop us from thinking negatively:
- The “I can't” Habit (Where is the evidence that I can't do it? How can I tackle the problem? How did I deal with the situation in the past and most importantly, is it possible to ask for help?)
- The Catastrophising Habit (How likely is the worst-case scenario? What are other things that might happen and how could I cope if something bad happens?
- The Blaming Habit (Am I being fair to myself/others when blaming me/them?)
- The “It's not fair” Habit (What did a situation look like from the other person's point of view? Were my expectations reasonable in this case?
Just to name a few of them.
By cognitive restructuring our thoughts, changing our thinking habits and changing our point of view, we will be able to become more flexible and resilient.
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Here are three books about positive thinking from the Secondary Library
Positively Teenage, Nicola Morgan
Full of practical, proven strategies for physical and mental health, Positively Teenage will show you lots of ways to flourish physically and mentally - from doing things you enjoy to learning new skills; looking after your diet, exercise and attitude to being healthy online; getting great sleep to understanding your personality - allowing you to take control of many areas of your life.
Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens, Mary Karapetian Alvord
Each chapter will walk you through simple explanations of each kind of negative thought, and offers real-life examples-as well as the sorts of behaviours, emotions, and bodily sensations that might be expected. You'll also gain an understanding of unhelpful or unrealistic thoughts, how to challenge them, how to replace them with more realistic and helpful thoughts, and an action plan for moving forward.
Think Confident, be confident for teens, Marci G Fox PHD
Studies show that self-confidence plummets during the teenage years, when complex social relationships begin to take centre stage and teens begin to assert their independence from parents and families. As a result, teens become more vulnerable to peer pressure, self-doubt, depression, and anxiety. Think Confident, Be Confident for Teens is a cognitive therapy guide teens can use to recognize and reframe self-doubt and "give up" thoughts in order to replace them with more confident, positive thoughts about themselves.